The troubling narrative I’ve seen in parts of our community is that we’re excused of eco crimes because we have no next generation and, more disturbing is that we’re doing our bit because we’re not having children, mixing up the narrative between childfree and not by choice. If you’ve endured the heatwave that’s spread across Europe this year, watched water levels drop last summer or seen photos of polar bears stranded on melting ice flows, then be certain that this isn’t about the next generation. This is us, right now.
Support for #childless men on #FathersDay If you’re part of our community, you maybe well understand that it’s incredibly difficult for men to talk about childlessness and infertility. Social standards don’t appear to have changed to the degree that society can accept that men will be childless by circumstance and many endure a private turmoil. And it’s not just the painful comments around ‘jaffa’ and getting the right woman (all things we’ve heard).
Our carefully balanced emotions can easily be upset by baby news. At the time of writing this, a baby was due to be born in the Royal Family to Prince Harry and his wife Megan. We may have been here before with other newsworthy people and I’m going to predict it’s the lead story in most world news. I don’t begrudge them a baby and hope that all is well. It’s rarely the baby that’s the problem but attitudes that surround the news.
I'm very excited to announce that I'm going to be joining Sarah Lawrence from After The Storm and Michael Hughes from Married and Childless and fellow World Childless Week champion, as a presenter for a new monthly podcast called The Full Stop…
It’s a big deal thinking about going and an even bigger one when you decide to book a ticket, nevermind walking in the door, alone or with a friend or partner. I know.
Did the buttercream in a Victoria Sandwich remind you of that time you realised you may not be a mum? Did you find the missing answers to not being a father in a chocolate Swiss roll? Nope, us neither.
Join Berenice, founder of Walk In Our Shoes with Steph Phillips, founder of World Childless Week and conversation with Sarah Lawrence from After the Storm and Helen Segal who runs workshops called 'Grieve with Love and Kindness’. Helen taught art for 13 years and is a graduate of Integrative Art Therapy and a qualified teacher. She’s also a member of Gateway Women. She’ll be sharing her advice on creative ways to heal with us.
With miscarriage being the most common complication of pregnancy, ending 250,000 of pregnancies in the UK, it’s not just those of us who are childless not by choice or going through fertility treatment who find this tough. It’s also really hard for those who have lost their mum too or have a painful or non-existent relationship with them.
My blog post about my experiences after two weeks in the new Mighty Network space for Gateway Women. It may help you to decide if you’d like to go over to the new Gateway Women home and I’ve shared a few tips so it’s easier when you make the move.
“Anna Jarvis had initially worked with the floral industry to help raise Mother’s Day’s profile, by 1920 she had become disgusted with how the holiday had been commercialized. She outwardly denounced the transformation and urged people to stop buying Mother’s Day flowers, cards and candies.” Now I’d like to see a choice on social media and in our inboxes.
I am so very thrilled to announce that I've been listed as a One To Watch in Digital Tech awards scheme! You can read more about it here..
Whatever our fertility story, we all may have stayed in hopeless jobs with no prospects because of maternity rights. As our dreams of being mothers or fathers were replaced by desperate longing, so our self confidence and worth nosedives. Employers and business leaders have many ways to help those dealing with fertility issues if we can have a conversation about it.
It’s been a journey of tears, pain and trauma and I expect that to be life long. This is what I have learned and I wanted to share it with you on #timetotalk day.
I’ve been reading a lot about the menopause recently. There’s been some interesting coverage on television about this big change, but often aimed at a mothers. My own mum felt like she has sailed through but I’m nervous. I’ve really stuck my head in the sand about it all. Partly because it does mean no hope… what does it mean to be childless and menopausal?
Way way way back in 2012 I was trying to come to terms with life. When I saw the phrase ‘living a life unexpected’ I had to follow those words to their source and found Gateway Women.
Trusting others with your feeling isn’t easy. Trusting someone who hasn’t been through childlessness is even more difficult, for you and them. Nobody wants to be grieving at the table.
Stephanie or Power Sister as I often call her, is the founder of World Childless Week. She’s amazing and this is why!
It’s always good to share coping strategies and I love how the community pull together to share each other’s links.
Michael Hughes and why it’s important to talk about male infertility and make friends despite childlessness.
I’ve often had reason to talking about infertility in conversation but often on a stage. I’ve never been completely sure if I’m a good communicator. Let’s face it, IVF or anything to do with childlessness isn’t an easy subject to convey…
If only it was so simple but once again, a report is published with absolutely no regard to those who are trying to come to terms with not being a parent, for that too is a choice.
Steph from World Childless Week and Berenice were delighted to be invited to the launch of Scream for IVF which took place yesterday at Saatchi and Saatchi Wellness in London. As you’ll know from this site, IVF and funding means a lot to Berenice and Kenny…
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What is it like to be childless in Chile? Tere shares her story with you and talks about the impact of Jody Day and Living The Life Unexpected.
Last time I posted on social media I said that we were going to be saying goodbye to our last embryo. I can see from the website that I drafted 4 blog posts and made two videos at the time and didn't know what to say or write. Here's a video to tell you what happened next and explain what happened at PechaKucha Cambridge last night.
Today I am bringing you two video posts. Both have been recorded to mark the 40th birthday of Louise Brown, the first IVF baby and of course, IVF. The first is from Childless Voices and hosted by Jody Day from Gateway Women. In the second, I talk about IVF, us and Bourn Hall.
I’m always so pleased to read inspiring blogs and hear about news from pioneers who are doing their bit to raise awareness of involuntary childlessness. This week I’m telling you all about Brandi from Not So Mommy, the Walking Forward Inspirational Network and World Childless Week too!
Why should you buy the new edition? The updates are tremendous. I learned a lot from the first edition (published in 2013 and crowdfunded) and more from 2016’s edition. This new revision contains an exhaustive list of resources covering the demographics we find in the community from faith, colour, LGBTQIA+ and men too.