The troubling narrative I’ve seen in parts of our community is that we’re excused of eco crimes because we have no next generation and, more disturbing is that we’re doing our bit because we’re not having children, mixing up the narrative between childfree and not by choice. If you’ve endured the heatwave that’s spread across Europe this year, watched water levels drop last summer or seen photos of polar bears stranded on melting ice flows, then be certain that this isn’t about the next generation. This is us, right now.Read More
Support for #childless men on #FathersDay If you’re part of our community, you maybe well understand that it’s incredibly difficult for men to talk about childlessness and infertility. Social standards don’t appear to have changed to the degree that society can accept that men will be childless by circumstance and many endure a private turmoil. And it’s not just the painful comments around ‘jaffa’ and getting the right woman (all things we’ve heard).Read More
Our carefully balanced emotions can easily be upset by baby news. At the time of writing this, a baby was due to be born in the Royal Family to Prince Harry and his wife Megan. We may have been here before with other newsworthy people and I’m going to predict it’s the lead story in most world news. I don’t begrudge them a baby and hope that all is well. It’s rarely the baby that’s the problem but attitudes that surround the news.Read More
It’s a big deal thinking about going and an even bigger one when you decide to book a ticket, nevermind walking in the door, alone or with a friend or partner. I know.Read More
Did the buttercream in a Victoria Sandwich remind you of that time you realised you may not be a mum? Did you find the missing answers to not being a father in a chocolate Swiss roll? Nope, us neither.Read More
Join Berenice, founder of Walk In Our Shoes with Steph Phillips, founder of World Childless Week and conversation with Sarah Lawrence from After the Storm and Helen Segal who runs workshops called 'Grieve with Love and Kindness’. Helen taught art for 13 years and is a graduate of Integrative Art Therapy and a qualified teacher. She’s also a member of Gateway Women. She’ll be sharing her advice on creative ways to heal with us.Read More
With miscarriage being the most common complication of pregnancy, ending 250,000 of pregnancies in the UK, it’s not just those of us who are childless not by choice or going through fertility treatment who find this tough. It’s also really hard for those who have lost their mum too or have a painful or non-existent relationship with them.Read More
My blog post about my experiences after two weeks in the new Mighty Network space for Gateway Women. It may help you to decide if you’d like to go over to the new Gateway Women home and I’ve shared a few tips so it’s easier when you make the move.Read More
“Anna Jarvis had initially worked with the floral industry to help raise Mother’s Day’s profile, by 1920 she had become disgusted with how the holiday had been commercialized. She outwardly denounced the transformation and urged people to stop buying Mother’s Day flowers, cards and candies.” Now I’d like to see a choice on social media and in our inboxes.Read More
I am so very thrilled to announce that I've been listed as a One To Watch in Digital Tech awards scheme! You can read more about it here..Read More
Last week I was thrilled to be part of the More To Life webinar series. This series offers free digital access, in the comfort of home surroundings, to expert opinion and advice on tackling the diverse range of issues that manifest when living without children. All support and information is tailored to help the More to Life community achieve the most fulfilling life possible. You can watch my video below.
To listen to other recordings in the series and see what’s coming up, you can head over to their main page here where you can also register.
With many thanks to Heather and all the More To Life team who work so hard to support all of us.
Whatever our fertility story, we all may have stayed in hopeless jobs with no prospects because of maternity rights. As our dreams of being mothers or fathers were replaced by desperate longing, so our self confidence and worth nosedives. Employers and business leaders have many ways to help those dealing with fertility issues if we can have a conversation about it.Read More
It’s been a journey of tears, pain and trauma and I expect that to be life long. This is what I have learned and I wanted to share it with you on #timetotalk day.Read More
I’ve been reading a lot about the menopause recently. There’s been some interesting coverage on television about this big change, but often aimed at a mothers. My own mum felt like she has sailed through but I’m nervous. I’ve really stuck my head in the sand about it all. Partly because it does mean no hope… what does it mean to be childless and menopausal?Read More
Trusting others with your feeling isn’t easy. Trusting someone who hasn’t been through childlessness is even more difficult, for you and them. Nobody wants to be grieving at the table.Read More
It’s always good to share coping strategies and I love how the community pull together to share each other’s links.Read More
Michael Hughes and why it’s important to talk about male infertility and make friends despite childlessness.Read More