It's less than a month until the Conference on Childlessness for 2017 and if you don't have tickets, do grab them before it's a sell out! I know many were disappointed to miss out.Read More
Walk in Our Shoes hit a high of 3,500 page views last week. The site kept up over 2,000 each day which is incredible. Thank you so much - if just one person reads this site and says it made a difference then I'm happy - so you can imagine the joy from reading the stats for this website.Read More
A few people have asked for a video on how to log into and take part in a Twitter Chat. There are lots of really useful links out there but this is my very ad-hoc guide to Tweet Deck.Read More
A new gallery entry from Jill, on this last day of World Childless Week 2017Read More
This week isn't about one group, but about lots of groups and people coming together to share a common theme. We have other awareness weeks - Infertility Awareness and Miscarriage Awareness too, and WOW. Why do we need another? Well, why can't we have another? Let's get talking. #worldchildlessweekRead More
One quote that I return to often is this one. “Have nothing in your houses that you do not know to be useful or believe to be beautiful.” William Morris.Read More
It’s a reaction that I experience a lot. In my research and continued work with Walk In Our Shoes, Childless Hour and Walking Forwards Inspiration Group I hear of many irritations with people who try to fix by making suggestions. I’ve been told to adopt, try surrogacy, offered eggs and relax to help me find peace. Silence is, for me, probably the worst response because it feels like a shared discomfort that can make me question the validity of my feelings.
I absolutely know, that until I went on this journey and experienced miscarriages and failed IVF, that I too would have not known what to say.Read More
I often try to put myself on the other side. If someone came up to me, some fifteen years ago (for that’s how long my journey has been), and said I can’t have children what would I have said? How could I have been kinder to that person? Would I have fixed them? Underestimated the pain and how would I have known what to do? I’m midway through a manuscript on this very subject and talking to parents and involuntary childless has been enlightening. It helps to just walk in their shoes, as we ask them to walk in ours.Read More
This week on our Twitter chat @childlesshour, we'll be talking all things to do with World Childless Hour. Share what this week means to you, meet new friends in our moderated and safe environment. We chat every Tuesday between 8-9pm BST, just search on #childlesshour.Read More
Two years ago, Walk In Our Shoes was first shown at the MA end of degree show at The Cambridge School of Art at Anglia Ruskin University. It feels appropriate as we look forward to #WorldChildlessWeek doesn't it?Read More
As part of World Childless Week, the team is arranging for a series of Zoom chats to be recorded about the insensitive comments that the childless-not-by-choice frequently have to deal with. Can you help us?Read More
Today is tough. This week is going to be tough. It's back to school week and Buckingham Palace bring news of a third child. I hesitate to post this because if you've not seen already you know now. But I suspect you'll hear very soon as the universe places hope on happy news over the wider world which isn't a good place. But I hope that sharing it here with some advice makes that easier.
As anyone who follows this site often maybe already knows, I don't support parent 'bashing'. I know from good friends that it's hard to bring up children, really tough and those good friends also know that I've been through a lot too. Mutual respect for the challenges we face is far far better than picking holes in each other but only through honest conversations which takes courage.Read More
Self worth and value are two challenging subjects that appear often in the journey to acceptance. Having spoken with two good friends doubt their worth this past week because of difficult situations and powerful influences that would have tested anyone, it felt like an appropriate time to highlight the work of Dr Brene Brown.
Dr Brene Brown focuses on the impact of shame, and what we can do to become what she calls “shame resilient,” where we’re able to quickly identify and dissolve shame triggers. There are so many shame triggers in loss events and our experiences of grief and the way that other people respond to our loss events and experiences of grief. Shame adds stress and suffering to grief and separates us from each other, which disconnects us from the valuable transformational and supportive power of connection and community. When we know our shame triggers and can dissolve shame experiences, then we’re always able to know what we need in our grieving journey and we can clearly communicate what we need, which enriches our relationships, giving us access to the transformational power of community.
For me, Brene Brown has a wide reach in her work that extends to many areas of life. Several women I know, who have been through infertility and find themselves adjusting to a new life, sing her praises. Undoubtedly her impact in our tribe is positive, but her work speaks to many. I find her work incredibly useful as a resource for those who wonder how best to support a friend or relative going through grief and life changes. If you're in doubt then do watch this on empathy.
I set myself a challenge, to host a Twitter hour of my own to help raise awareness of involuntary childlessness and create a Twitter space which builds on the resources held by Walk In Our Shoes. Most importantly to get talking about this subject (often hidden away in private groups) on a public space.Read More
"It felt like it took a long time for me to find my husband. I spent my 20’s doing what can best be described as ‘faffing around’. I was a party girl, I loved having a good time, I was an adrenaline junkie and really felt like I LIVED my 20’s."Read More
'm a huge fan of Kerry's work. We met through Gateway Women and she took on the epic task of organising the only conference for childless men and women in 2016... and she's doing it all over again this year. She kindly spared a few minutes of her precious time to talk to Walk In Our Shoes about the event which is being held in Birmingham on Saturday 14th October, 2017.Read More
Walk In Our Shoes often features guest posts from like minded people who share the similar ethos of hope and inspiration. The site welcomes contributions from authors in the field of loss and involuntary childlessness, events, healing, managing grief and recognised therapies. We love to hear from fellow bloggers and those who run support groups as our ethos is one of sharing.Read More