I feel I always start posts by saying this is painful or difficult! Much of our journeys are littered with difficult situations, painful treatment, hard decisions and loss. The loss is what binds anyone who falls under the banner of childless. To the outside world that term might seem relatively simple. Within our community, it can be fraught with misunderstandings and argument and I find myself witness to disagreements.
At the time of writing, it has been seven hours since the first post to Morrisons and no reply. The social team, who are available 8am to 11pm, are more interested in comments on their cauliflowers. So me, Mr Walk In Our Shoes, has been on a super hero mission....
It's been very quiet on here, February 18th was the last time I wrote anything which is very tardy. I've been really ill. Big Style poorly with twelve days so far in bed. I'm a long, long way from being better.
The Walk In Our Shoes website has been so helpful this past week but for an entirely different reason to the ones you'd expect!
I've been working with Steph Phillips on World Childless Week. As you may remember, I wrote lots of posts and interviewed a number of Walk In Our Shoes supporters for the first World Childless Week last year and I was proud to support Steph on this venture....
I am so excited about tomorrow evening, Tuesday 23rd. Our lovely friends at More To Life are holding a series of fantastic webinars and I'm honoured to be holding a very special Childless Hour chat after each event, starting at 8pm GMT ....
Childless Hour has a new page on Walk In Our Shoes! If you'd love to join a weekly chat with those who simply 'get it', where you can share those life challenges that others may not understand and get some support in handling them, then please do join us. We love new faces and you don't have to be a Twitter expert to take part, in fact we think #childlesshour is a great place to learn as we're so friendly! We have weekly themes and also lots of time for general, freestyle chat to share our concerns and high-five those successes too.
It was only as I posted about my Christmas in the closed community of Gateway Women that I realised how I have started to take ownership of Christmas. We've once again spent the week by the seaside, this hasn't always worked for me but I did a few things that helped and I wanted to share them here.
Do you remember Robert? His story was one of the most popular that I have published and I had a lot of lovely email and comments on social media. I took Molly, my dog, to meet Robert a few weeks ago and we chatted about the impact of his piece and how he was keeping. He wanted to share more about his latest plans.
I send thanks and love wherever you are for your support this year. If you've read a post, talked to me on Twitter on @ChildlessHour (which is running on Boxing Day if you'd like to join us) or Facebook, joined the Walking Forward Inspiration Network then you've made a difference to me. Thank you!
My experiences of loneliness come from involuntary childlessness. I am a mother to unborn children, after fifteen years of try to conceive and 6 rounds of IVF treatment. I have recurrent miscarriages. No amount of medical intervention or alternative treatments can fix that....
Hello, I'm Juliana and I haven't had children because I haven't met a man I thought would make a good dad. The first bloke I met, I moved 200 miles to live with him even though my dad warned me it wasn't a good idea. I was in love so I went anyway...
Boden have a campaign going at the moment. It's called 'Wear It Like a Mum'. The messaging is '...as in on your own terms, in your way, how YOU like. Your style, and how you wear it, is something to be championed - because being a mum is title to be proud of.' Ouch!
I am still around! It's been a very busy week with lots of really nice comments coming in following the Cambridge Digital Awards and helping World Childless Week with the 2018 branding and The Childless Not By Choice magazine with design advice. I've also set up an exhibition related to my postgraduate degree and ran a book launch! Thankfully life is a bit quieter now and I'm busy back to printmaking and going to life drawing sessions which I am loving so much. Now cast your mind back to the lighter days of September. I spoke with a very inspiring business owner, Sarah Swanton during this month. She's the #happyhealthyentrepreneur
Throughout my childhood my grandparents had dogs. There was Penny, Pixie, Lulu, Topsy and 12 puppies born to their rescue dog mum, Lady. As kids my cousins and my brother played with them and took them for walks. Christmas was particularly memorable for dressing up dogs in tea towels and having them pose as nativity animals. When I think about growing up, four legs feature as much as humans, even though my parents never had one themselves (not for the want of trying on the part of my brother and myself).
I suppose it was always inevitable that I would have a dog but I didn't think it would be in such sad circumstances. I worried that I'd resent it for not being a child and being the 'plan B'.
With trepidation I began to read this, curled up on a sofa as the rain fell in Cornwall and quietly conscious that I'd picked it up a few days after the anniversary of a late miscarriage. It's testimony to Tessa's compassionate and warmth that carries through every page, that I carried on reading.
#TalkFertilityBe honest, if you'd had a child naturally, would you know what to say to someone who was infertile if you took away all you knew? We have to lead the way in quashing the ignorance, even if that hurts sometimes, a make it easier for our tribe